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Negotiating Separation & Divorce

The breakdown of a marriage and the decision to divorce is likely to be one of the most stressful life events that an individual will face. Dealing with practical and financial arrangements in the midst of emotional trauma may seem insurmountable, but the right team of lawyers will guide you through the legal process in a sympathetic, supportive and, above all, objective manner to achieve the best possible outcome for you.

We will always start with what type of separation do you want, and continue to be guided by your principles.  Amicable, collaborative, child-first – we will guide and support you through all options, seeking the calmest of outcomes for you and your family.  Litigation is not our starting point and over 90% of the divorces we manage are settled without the trauma and costs of going to court.

If litigation remains the only option, you can be assured you have the access to the team who has won more outcomes than any other, including Supreme Court cases.



The Legal 500 UK 2023 describes Payne Hicks Beach LLP as a “top notch firm that does A list work for the most influential, successful and high profile clients.” Chambers UK

Negotiating separation and divorce can be challenging, but it’s essential to approach the process with clarity, empathy, and a focus on finding mutually acceptable solutions. Here are some steps to consider:

1. Seek Legal Advice: Consult with a family law solicitor to understand your rights, obligations, and legal options. They can provide guidance on the divorce process and help you navigate complex legal matters.

2. Gather Information: Compile all relevant financial documents, including bank statements, tax returns, property deeds, and retirement account statements. Having a clear understanding of your assets, debts, and financial situation will be crucial for negotiation.

3. Communicate Effectively: Maintain open and respectful communication with your spouse or partner throughout the negotiation process. Focus on finding common ground and prioritising the well-being of any children involved.

4. Consider Mediation: Mediation can be a cost-effective and less adversarial alternative to traditional litigation. A neutral mediator can help facilitate discussions and assist you in reaching agreements on issues such as property division, child arrangements, and support payments.

5. Child Arrangements and Support: If you have children, prioritise their needs and best interests when negotiating schedule and support arrangements. Create a parenting plan that outlines each parent’s responsibilities and visitation schedule, taking into account the child’s age, school schedule, and extracurricular activities.

6. Division of Assets and Debts: Work together to divide marital assets and debts fairly and equitably. This may include property, vehicles, investments, retirement accounts, and personal belongings. Be prepared to compromise and consider creative solutions to achieve a fair outcome.

7. Review and Finalise Agreements: Once you’ve reached agreements on all relevant issues, review the terms carefully with your solicitor before signing any legal documents. Make sure you fully understand your rights and obligations before finalising the divorce settlement.

8. Take Care of Yourself: Divorce can be emotionally draining, so prioritise self-care and seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if needed. Surround yourself with positive influences and focus on building a fulfilling life post-divorce.

Navigating separation and divorce requires patience, resilience, and a willingness to collaborate with your spouse to find solutions that work for both parties. With the right approach and support, you can successfully negotiate a fair and amicable divorce settlement.

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The Family Team at Payne Hicks Beach is ranked in Chambers HNW 2023. 

The directory writes that:

“Payne Hicks Beach has a highly esteemed family law department which regularly handles high-value and sophisticated matters.” 

“They are uniformly first rate, from the technical ability of more junior team members with day to day responsibility on a case, to the deep experience and strategic thinking offered by the partners and more senior associates.”

“PHB are absolutely excellent. They are all extremely competent, and can handle really big cases without being fazed by anything.”

With rankings over many years in Chambers HNW, testimonials include “They’re as good as you’ll find; they’re a class act,” says a source, explaining: “They have a lot of depth to their practice. They all have great experience and are very good to deal with.” 

Another comments: “They are a fantastic group of lawyers. They provide excellent advice to clients, and they have strong expertise in a range of areas. They really invest in their clients; it’s a real pleasure dealing with them.” 

The Legal 500 UK 2023 describes Payne Hicks Beach LLP as a “top notch firm that does A list work for the most influential, successful and high profile clients.” 

The law directory expands to say that “the department is ‘outstanding’ and garners praise for its specialist advice on the full spectrum of complex family law issues often with an international dimension for high-profile individuals, entrepreneurs, UHNWs and others including members of international Royalty” and recognises that the team “is frequently instructed in cases that go to the Supreme Court and the Court of Appeal.”  “Overall it is a ‘class act with a team of great lawyers who know exactly how to run the big, difficult litigation but never lose sight of what the client wants’.”  

One source comments: “The PHB family team has exceptional experience of the most complex international family law disputes. Very few other firms have this level of experience. Hand-in-hand with this the firm delivers a very personal service, giving clients the assurance that both their case and their welfare are being cared for with utmost attention.”

The Legal 500 UK 2023 describes Payne Hicks Beach LLP as a “top notch firm that does A list work for the most influential, successful and high profile clients.” The Legal 500 UK